Anytime tragedy strikes you often hear people say, “Where was GOD?” or “Why did GOD let this happen?”

As a spiritual teacher, I find it funny that many struggle to separate themselves from their idea of “GOD” and then when we need “GOD” most we blame “GOD” for not being there. Yet, GOD is and always will be everywhere.

GOD was the 27 innocents that lost their physical life and GOD was also with the shooter. GOD was in the courageous actions of the teachers who sacrificed their life to protect another; GOD was in the flow of love and support from communities around the Nation and World; GOD was the police and EMT officials that arrived on scene; GOD was the parents mourning and remembering their children; GOD was the parents who empathized with the parents that lost their children; GOD was in Obama’s Speech to the Nation; and so, my friends, a better question is WHERE WASN’T GOD?

When tragedy strikes we often look for someone or something to blame; the shooter, the gun, gun control laws, and even GOD. Yet, it’s not so much about where to put the blame, but rather where do we go from here? What actions can be taken to create a positive change and protect others ?

Children don’t expect to go to school and come under fire; yet, this isn’t the first time and won’t be the last. We need to get to the root of the problem and yes, part of that problem, may be the fact that civilians can have assault weapons. But, as I stated the other day in an Facebook Post - “We need to reach these people before they snap psychologically.”

A full psych evaluation might tell us that the person is “sane” in that moment – but, doesn’t say what might be triggers for them to snap. A parent of a murdered child, for example, may snap if confronted with a killer or if the justice system lacks the evidence to convict and results in a mistrial. Now, I’m not advocating for vigilante justice but rather stating that nearly everyone has a “breaking point”. And I believe when people reach that point and actions align they snap and can do unthinkable and even uncharacteristic things.

We have had parents kill their own children to impress another possible mate; mothers microwaving their infants; spouses hiring killers; bludgeoning someone to death; hate crimes; etc. It isn’t the tool that kills but rather the passion, perception, and mind of the person behind it.

We didn’t ban microwaves on the actions of the breakdown of a woman – did we? No. We didn’t ban wood-chippers because a man decided to dispose of his wife – did we? Nope, still being sold.

THE BEST SOLUTION IS: Reaching the mind before it suffers a psychological breakdown and getting that person all the help they need.

Personally, I believe certain things such as guns should never have come into existence; however, guns aren’t what’s killing people it is merely the vehicle that some choose to use.

So, GOD, exists in the solution as well and the solution is helping those that cry out for it. If someone says something that reveals intent – where in the past we might have ignored it – “I’ll kill ___ ” as something coming from anger, but anger is emotion and emotion is powerful enough to cause action.

So, I believe we need to not be passive and must become active in order for this outcome to change; active listeners, active lovers, active thinkers, and active in taking action. We can no longer assume the motives of another – we must report and allow psychologist and law enforcement begin to take each threat seriously.

If we want to create a better world we must take different actions.

By William Constantine

Ellen DeGeneres is a trendsetter and trendspotter – she is highly intellectual and is all about innovation and change – using her platform to spread the message. She is open-minded but also tends to stay true to her own opinions.

Ellen is constantly seeking what’s best for humankind – she is about helping others grow, connect, and breakdown stereotypes and schools of thought that no longer hold weight in her eyes.  She is all about giving openly and with love and tends to overextend herself sometimes – with the best of intentions though. Due to this giving nature – she’ll also find herself surrounded by takers those that understand her giving nature and desire to use it to their advantage. My advice, Ellen needs to realign herself with high caliber people and re-evaluate questionable relationships from time to time (every 6 months or so … would be good. lol).

With Ellen, what you see on TV is very much what you get with her – she is highly opinionated and isn’t afraid to share them. She isn’t about to be bullied into a corner or back down because you disagree – she is open but when she feels she has discovered the “correct path” she stays true to it.

Ellen has found the perfect match in Portia because they both like freedom and independence – yet, also when together enjoy the quality time re-connecting with each other. They really balance each other out well and understand each other at a very deep level of conscious understanding.

At home, Ellen is the hostess with the mostess – she is altruistic and giving and all guest feel welcome and cared for at the DeGeneres / de Rossi household.

With work she excels at everything she does and is constantly in competition with herself – she is very much a creator of new opportunities for herself and others. She has a wild ability to be able to see things for what they are and instantly find ways to improve them. She loves being creative and coming up with new ideas and avenues to reach out and give back to people.

Ellen is one of those celebrities where she realizes the importance of her fans and how much they mean to her bottom line – they are her bottom line. Everything she does she does to serve them better, enrich their lives, and uplift their lives.  She isn’t attached to her financial abundance in fact it’s just a vehicle for her to give back.

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Andie MacDowell is a genuine southern bell – she enjoys the quiet simple life surrounded by nature. In fact, I’m sure that if you were to visit you would find the MacDowell residence comfortable and Andie most likely would be in a favorite area of her home or perhaps out in the garden. You’ll find that Andie enjoys inner contemplation and as an empath you’ll find she feels everything within her body (which is what makes her such a great method actress). Those that call her friend would describe her as dependable, a true friend, and a harmonizer.

Andie is the go to person for those that know her when they have issues – she is excellent in the role of peacekeeper and has calmed many storms. However, she isn’t quick to embrace change as she likes things to be dependable – yet, she is a creator of change in others.

In a relationship, Andie is fiercely loyal and one you can count on. You’ll find that she is attracted to her counterpart – someone who has an established routine. She enjoys having a good time – but, not in the sense of a die-hard partier. No, you’d probably be more likely to find her at a cocktail hour – hosted by her – rather than, at a club somewhere.

At home, Andie has created a womb-like environment surrounded by a calm and secure sense. You may find a collection of various things – books, magazines, awards, etc. If you are planning a visit to the MacDowell residence – be sure, it’s at dinner because I’m sure there is something lovely wafting through the air.

When it comes to money, Andie is a fantastic provider and giver to those in her inner circle. She loves to feel a sense of contribution and doesn’t feel the need to spend money on lavish worldly things. No instead, you’ll find that she is enhancing the comforts of home to provide a better environment for guests and those she loves.

With regards to work, she is not only dependable but chooses roles that she can relate to or connect with on some level. If she doesn’t feel she can portray that character justly – don’t be surprised if she turns down the role. You’ll also find, that she is a sound businesswoman. Follow Andie on Twitter

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Insights into the Afterlife

By William Constantine

Q: My boyfriend was shot in front of our apartment in October 2003. I was pregnant with our second child a boy who I named after him. We have a daughter as well who turned one in November of that year. She sometimes mentions her dad and states he talks to her. I have tried everything to contact him but with no luck. I just want to know if she really is talking to him and if he is okay now? If you do happen to contact him please let him know we all love him very much and miss him everyday. His name is Jonathan Dannemann. He would have turned 26 this month. Thank you for any information you have to share we truly appreciate all your help.  – Shawna Annotto

A: Let me first say, thank you for your honesty and courage to share such a sensitive story with not only myself but the readers of the magazine.

Now, on to your question, if a child is stating that they KNOW who they are talking with then they really are. The problem with society is they have trained us not to believe and sweep under the rug the experiences of our children when it comes to this type of occurrences. Please, don’t pass it off as an invisible friend – instead, ask her what Daddy is saying to her, what is he wearing, and any other question you feel pertinent. In other words, encourage this beautiful connection.

The innocence of a child is often what helps them continue to have this strong connection with spirit – remember it wasn’t that long ago that they were on the Otherside.

As for you, know Jonathan is still very much around you and loves you very much. While it is his physical body that you miss and all that comes with it – he hasn’t gone anywhere that he cannot be apart of your life.

Trust in that and thanks for the question.

Q: What do your think about the way hauntings are portrayed on Television? – Stephen

A: To be honest, I feel that a true haunting is rare and most of the time people are victims of their own imagination or fears; however, other times they might be victim to a confused spirit who wants nothing more than to communicate something.

Hollywood has portrayed hauntings in one particular way for years now and it’s nearly impossible to undo the damage that’s been done; yet, it isn’t impossible for people to know where Hollywood ends and the true haunting begin. It is at this point that, for many, the lines of truth and fiction become blurry.

I think in many cases of a true and legitimate haunting the truth is far scarier than anything that Hollywood could muster up.

Q: What do you think about the phenomenon of White Noise? — Stephanie

A: I can say that spirits have and do use electronics as a way of reaching the living. Personally, I think if someone is staring at a television screen filled with snow and the sound of static blaring out of the speakers, they have the ability to see or hear things simply because they want to.

As a child, I grew up “reading” a series of books called Magic Eye where you stared at various images and when your eyes blurred it would create a 3D image that could only be seen by relaxing both your vision and your mind. I think the same could be true with seeing images in snow on a television screen or listening to static.

I believe that authentic cases of white noise exist, but again are rare.

Q: Are Graveyards haunted?

A: Honestly, as a psychic medium, I find graveyards to be sanctuaries of sorts for me because there are very few spirits there; however, to answer your question, some spirits can reside in graveyards. Yet, for the most part, those visiting them – a family member, a friend, a lover, etc, bring the Spirits in a graveyard there.

Think about it this way, if you were living on the Otherside would you want to hang out on the piece of property where your “physical remains” are or would you be more interested in visiting with your loved ones?

Death seems to be the topic that most avoid, but truth is it is bound to happen at some point so you might as well understand it. Far too many people still believe that death is the final chapter to the story of life — yet, I know that nothing could be further from the truth.

In my life, I have helped scores of people across the world heal by delivering messages of love from spirit — powerful messages that leave no doubt in the clients mind who I am speaking to or what the message is.

I did a gallery reading one time and I got the validation for “tinker bell” and I was still new at doing public readings so didn’t want to deliver such an odd message. However, it kept resurfacing and I finally said, “What’s with the Tinker Bell connection?”.

Would you believe 4 people had a Tinker Bell connection ??

So, it was early on that I realized the messages weren’t for me the medium to process — no, rather, my job was simple; deliver the messages and allow the client to make the connection. I believe that many psychics — or so called psychics — in the world today, try and process and make sense of the validation. Yet, we can’t make sense of anything when we don’t know what it’s referring to.

The other day, I did a reading and the validation came through for a “tennis shoe” and so I delivered the message — turns out it was a key phrase that was supposed to be used in after death communication. I was astounded myself!

Yeah, I always find it interesting the information that comes through in a reading although most the time I don’t remember it. Yet, it’s the “odd” validations that really stand out.

Another phenomenal thing that spirits have done with me is show me the “grand tour” of a clients house — or a relatives house — and I’ll be describing the inside of the house as if I were there.

That still amazes me the detail and clarity of a house that I’ve never been in — knowing the layout and even placement of furniture or key items.

It’s no wonder my clients feel like I’m sitting across from them during a reading — psychically I am.

Let me say something to this end, a lot of people have this misconception that a “in-person reading” is somehow greater than a reading over the phone or Skype; however, this has not been my experience. In fact, the opposite is true because clients tend to be nervous or on edge when meeting me — “I hope he doesn’t pick up on that.” they think to themselves.

Many people just feel uncomfortable outside of the privacy of their own home — so, it would make sense then that a reading where they are in a comfortable place that they are relaxed. Sure, they still may be nervous about what I’ll get or if I get anything, but the moment I start talking they fall into relaxation and the validations start flowing instantly. Honestly, I don’t think I’ve been on the phone longer than a minute when the validations start flowing through.

After a reading, people comment all the time about how “healing” the process was and how it provided them much needed “closure”. They often hang up the phone with a knowing that their loved one is around and have “proof” via evidential validations.

I love my work, but more importantly, I love providing my clients the healing and closure they need most.

Recently, Joy and I, made the choice to go Vegan — we quit meat, poultry, fish, and dairy – cold turkey, one might say.

I have been around a while and learned a lot, but I have always come across people that were scared to step outside of their comfort zone — for whatever reason — mostly it was UNCERTAINTY. Yet, for as much as the comfort zone offers the illusion of protection — it also keeps you from jumping full into the experiences of life! So, many people find themselves on the proverbial “cliff” of their comfort zone and fear that if they jump off — it will end in catastrophe.

Truth is,

many know intellectually that it may not be the case; yet, they are still gripped by fear as if an evil demon gorilla was waiting to eat them for a snack.

FEAR … it truly is what happens when we are uncertain of any outcome and it may manifest as anxiety, depression, stress, and even terror. So, the boundary of our comfort zone is fear based — is it not?

The very thing you have come to depend on to protect you and keep you safe is fear based. The comfort zone really says, “Stay here, you don’t know what lays in wait out there. Stay within my boundaries — it’s safer, you won’t get hurt.”

Trust me, I know many people who have been hurt within their comfort zone or by their comfort zone. All things within are comfort zone we have either come to expect or allowed ourselves to be conditioned that the occurrences are a normal part of life.

For example, you may have a couple existing in a horrible relationship — it’s truly going nowhere — yet, nobody makes an effort to leave because it’s “comfortable”. In other words, it is what they have come to rely on even though it may not be the healthiest and certainly not the happiest experience — yet, it’s within the boundaries of their comfort zone and they fear making the change.

Another example, is someone who is fearful of the ocean — namely shark attacks — may only dip a toe or two into the salty waters of the sea; yet, shark attacks are freak occurrences and are more likely not to happen. Yet, it keeps the individual beach bound as they watch swimmers enjoying the shimmering waters they still hear, “It’s not safe out there. Those people are crazy — in fact, they are asking for it. You’re safe on the beach.”

Are you really? I mean one could argue that in the past people have been mugged or even raped on the beach. But, one denies themselves the experience because they are fearful — it’s the unknown and therefore we project our fears onto what we don’t know.

I started this blog with the fact that Joy and I went Vegan — yet, prior to it Joy had a lot of fear about giving up all the things that she had grown comfortable with and accustomed to. Even after learning how harmful the vast majority of it was she still wanted to hold onto it — it was part of her comfort zone.

We have been Vegan for nearly a month and she is happy and excited that we have made the change. Last night, we went shopping for groceries and Joy had been craving chocolate. Naturally, she was looking at all the Easter Candy; Cadbury eggs being her favorite.

I showed her an all natural chocolate candy bar and she picked it up with dreaded apprehension — examining the label. She put it in the cart, but you could tell that she would have much preferred it be a Cadbury Egg.

When we got home, put the groceries away, I was watching a video on internet marketing and eating some grapes. Joy, had the candy bar in hand, opened the wrapper and took a bite then said, “It’s way better than I thought it would be … I don’t understand why they put all the crap in food if it tastes just as good if not better naturally.”

A new experience outside of her comfort zone yielded pleasant results — in fact, the entire shift to Vegan she greeted with much of that fear and apprehension as she did the chocolate bar. Yet, the results have proven themselves to her — the food doesn’t taste as bad as she thought it would, she is full more often and for longer, increase in energy, there is a balance, and she is actually enjoying it. We have both lost weight, in fact, I’m averaging 10 lbs a week and we are eating portioned controlled meals measuring everything out — which is why I also believe that I’m losing so much. See, I went to culinary school which means that I love food — both preparing and eating it. So overeating was always a big issue there are scientific reasons that we have come to realize during our constant research and understanding — basically, what we have found is that normal processed foods leave you feeling less full so you eat more to compensate. Yet, on a plant-based-diet you are consuming the good stuff first hand and it by nature leaves you feeling full quicker and for a longer duration.

So, here are some things for you to consider;

• What is in your comfort zone that is causing more harm than good?
• What experiences have you denied yourself simply because it was blocked by the wall of fear surrounding your comfort zone?

What are you missing??

Have you ever felt life your life was on “auto-pilot”?Ever stopped and asked yourself, “How did I get here?”

Sometimes, we “drive” through life like we do a routine car trip — you know, the ones where you just arrive and don’t remember the actual drive! That happens far too often, right?

Yet, did you ever stop and ask yourself, “What did I miss along the trip?”

Well, people go through life, in a similar fashion — in a routine. The routine becomes the “rat race” and suddenly you are desperately looking for your way out!!

Making slight shifts in your routine causes you to be consciously aware during the experience.

Answer these questions:

“What do you do when you wake up?”

“Then what?”

“Then what?”

“Then what?”

“Then what?”

“Then what?”

“Then what?”

See, you can transcribe your daily routine — which means your consciousness is probably so bored it went out to lunch. Yet, it’s still aware of whats going on enough to get you through the routine.

VARY YOUR ROUTINE — YOUR LIFE WILL CHANGE!

Do you drive the same boring stretch of road on the way to work? Change it — take a different route a few times a week — either on the way their and the way back. Allow yourself to be conscious through the trip and discover new ways and new things.

I cannot tell you how many times I have discovered a “new place” because I varied my routine — yet, the place had always been there. I would have continued my life not knowing it even existed if I didn’t vary my routine.

Constantly keep your morning routine varied — take a shower after breakfast, get up 10 -15 minutes earlier, meditate in the morning, etc.

By doing these things, you will notice new things because you are living in conscious awareness — new smells, new sights, new things … and you’ll take in the beauty that surrounds you that you’ve never noticed before.

Enjoy your day!

Let’s talk about money! Seems to be a popular subject in today’s world, but is it truly the root of all evil?

There is nothing that doesn’t exist outside of God-Consciousness — MONEY INCLUDED!!

GOD or Universal Consciousness or whatever name you call it — it desires for you to be happy and have all the things in the world you desire to experience. It’s important to note that money is a vehicle by which you can bring your desired experiences into reality — it isn’t going to buy you happiness.

You can be the richest person in the world and the most unhappy person at the same time — so, we need again a balance of sorts.

Money, for a lot of people, is a source of abundance and they feel that with it they will be happy because they will be able to buy, do, and become the person they envision themselves to be because of money. Now, money, is an aide but it isn’t the end all be all — in fact, most people that have such a deep attachment to it and depend on it to make it in the world or simply be happy aren’t feeling their already abundant source flow.

Another words, you already are abundant and there is nothing you cannot have because it already exists within you. People, need to truly understand the power of thought, and how our thoughts about our life and even money can repel or manifest that which we desire.

A person who feels they need more money, have no money, don’t make enough money, etc. all are coming from a universal place of LACK — thus, what they are focusing on truly is the “lack of money or abundance” and thus they keep creating this reality.

However, a person who sees money as a source of energy and realizes that what they give out will indeed return back to them is ultimately coming from a place of already having it.

There are a few things you can do; however, to spiritually attract money, if that is your desire. You can give donations to a church or person from which you feel spiritually enriches your life, you can give money to an organization that is making a difference in the world, or to a charity you believe in.

The amount of money doesn’t really matter — you can give a lot or you can give a little. You are sending a message that you have money to give and that’s a statement loud and clear to the universe.

When out shopping try on that expensive suit you desire to have — feel the shift in your energy as you wear it, see yourself wearing it, as you have it one envision you purchasing it or wearing out to a social gala, own it in your mind, believe you already have it and it will become a reality.

Far too many people, don’t treat themselves the greatest — if at all. Another words, if you wanted a shirt, blouse, shoes, a massage, etc. many will deny themselves that experience because they believe “I cannot afford that.” or “I’ll get it later.” or, even still, “The bills need to be paid.”

What is this sending out to the Universe about your financial standing?

You guessed it … LACK!

Yet, we don’t just deny ourselves material things, but experiences as well. It is important to give back to yourself for a job well done, a life well lived, etc. You need to re-nourish your soul by doing those things that make you happy and you, by in large, will be attracting more of those experiences and things into your life.

When your car is low on fuel — do you keep driving it until it stops? Or do you stop off at a gas station and refuel the tank?

Remember, that this is your journey, and if you truly want to make a difference in another’s life you must treat yourself first. If you constantly give away pieces of the pie what eventually happens is there is no more pie left; however, by you treating yourself to experiences and things you desire you will be refilling the pie plate with a full and complete pie.

Some Sources for Spiritual Fulfillment:

Yoga

Meditation

Massage

Make a purchase that you always wanted

Paying off that credit card

A family vacation

A new hair style

Visiting a Place of Beauty

The list can go on and on, and changes with regards to each person. So, what makes you happy? Is it a long walk on the beach, relaxing in a hot tub, etc.

Think about what helps replenish your soul so that you don’t become cranky and irritable — then do it!

I would say to do something for yourself at least once a week — small or large, it doesn’t matter just refuel your tank.

Now, with that taken care of let us return our focus back to money!

Money is a source of energy which is neutral in nature and we project value upon it as well as beliefs about it. Some people, believe that money is evil and thus they repel it from their life. Others believe money can help them and others and attract it into their life. Others still, believe they lack it and repel it from their life. While others, feel like they will never have enough and repel it from their life.

So, we must first shift our perception of money if it isn’t in alignment with attracting it — if that is indeed what you are looking to do.

Start with your personal economy — don’t look to the government to see how your economy is going. Did you know more millionaires are made during times of hardships and actually lack a college degree in many cases?

Are you one of those people that has a strictly tight budget with no room to budge? Do you feel like you are suffocating?

Well, odds are you need to shift your perceptions regarding money in order to breath again. Those who budget so tightly are actually coming from … LACK. It is basically saying we need to do X, Y, and Z in order to afford our lifestyle which is in alignment that you don’t really have the money.

We need to shift it to “Money flows freely and easily to me.” or “I am abundant in all aspects of life; money, relationships, career, etc.”

Create a list of your abundance and what you have to offer;

Do you have love to give?

Do you have sense of humor to share?

Do you have compassion to give?

Do you have empathy to give?

Do you have knowledge to offer?

Now to your current abundance:

Do you have a place to live?

Do you have a car to drive?

Do you have a source of income?

Do you have a talent?

Do you have friends?

Do you have a family?

Do you have people that love you?

Do you have food in the fridge?

Do you have a TV, a phone, a bed, etc.

Are you grateful for having those things? Or do you expect them and take them for granted?

Everything you have is part of your abundance — internal abundance equals external abundance. So, when we need to acknowledge that our inner world is reflected into our outer experience.

So, in order to truly feed wealthy or abundant — we must see that we already are by looking to all the things that we have, are, and will become.

By doing the above you will be attracting into your life more happiness, more abundance, and more wealth.

Some Affirmations:

“I appreciate and am thankful for the things that I have, am, and know that I am abundant in all things.”

“I am thankful for my paycheck because I know that it providing me a source of income, a lifestyle, and the ability to have X, Y, Z.”

“I realize that my job is only an avenue through which money can come to me.”

Think about that last one — your job is only a source of income! It’s not the only one! So, think how else can you create an additional stream of income?

So often, in life, it is easier to find the “faults” — or rather our projection of faults — in someone than it is to find the positive. Especially, if we are angry, upset, or arguing with this person — we have this desire to be … RIGHT.

Yet, to argue, is a choice is it not? Can you at any point in time shift the conversation — if you really wanted? That is to say, if you weren’t having so much fun getting pissed off and having your blood boil. Of course, that alone can cause a variety of health problems — so, is it really worth it?

Some would argue that it is because they enjoy it and need to be right — or so they think. Yet, relationships like this are only going to end in the dumpster! Is that really where you want your relationships to go?

“But, William, if we don’t address the issues nothing will ever get resolved and then what?”

Somehow, I knew you were going to ask that question! Truth be told, arguing doesn’t resolve — it complicates and more often than not diverts to other issues and away from the original one, right? Suddenly, you are arguing about something that happened last week, a month, or even a year ago and how is that resolving the present moment?

The first thing we must realize is ask ourselves;

“Why do I feel this way?”

“Where does my position in this situation originate?”

“How did I come to having these beliefs?”

“What are the good contributions, through our relationship, has this person made?

“What is it that I admire about this person?”

Now, you are armed with the means by which you can address the issues — all issues originate where? Now, the normal human conditioning says point a GIANT finger away from myself — yet, the finger should always be pointed inward.

Did you notice by the types of questions above we were performing a self analysis?

Here is what happens in relationships — two people with different life experiences come together either as friends or lovers and when those belief systems collide — you get an argument. While you may have had similar experiences even you both through your human conditioning were taught different ways of handling them — neither way is incorrect.

At some point, however, you must ask yourself those above questions and then ask;

“Does this belief serve my highest good and intention anymore?”

If not, we must learn to let it go and create new beliefs and ways to handle situations.

You see, part of our Human Conditioning is to mimic those around us — so, odds are if you thought long and hard and were truthful with yourself you could find out exactly where you picked up beliefs, behaviors, and even reactions (how we handle things).

“William, it sounds like I’m at fault for everything. Am I, right?”

Listen, first we need to do away with right and wrong — instead, think of it as what I have done and what I will / can do. Now, the biggest part of this journey is owning the fact that you are creating your reality which means accepting responsibility for your life experiences and not trying to find fault or pass blame. An experience, is something you have created to learn a valuable lesson and ascend into higher consciousness — whether you ascend or not depends on your response!

When arguing, for example, we typically are lashing out about something that is really bothering us — but, we don’t often question why it’s bothering us. Instead, we assume that someone else is to blame and we go into attack mode. The person we are attacking has a few options and choices on how to respond to this attack.

1. They could attack back — insult to injury

2. They could defend themselves — causing the person to attack more escalating the argument

3. They could listen –  by allowing the person who is attacking to vent

4. They could state positive things about their attacker — it’s kind of hard to be angry with someone if they are loving you through it.

The last two are key responses to situations — could you see how the argument might shift?

A majority of arguments come from “feelings” which are related to their human conditioning so we must be mindful of that as well — it will help us make the the right choices when responding. So, it’s fair to say that an emotional need isn’t being met — or at least that is the feeling of your attacker — and by listening you will get cues as to real issue and what need isn’t being met.

However, if you, focus on the things that you love about someone instead of the “differences” than you WIN. It’s not our job to point out faults in a person — remember, the finger is always pointing inward. Chances are if you don’t like an aspect of a person — you are really shaken by the reality it exists within you!

Love the “faults” … Love the person … Love the Moments and ultimately love yourself.

Think of all the relationships you have as a giant mirror — each of them reflecting back an aspect of yourself that you need to learn to love and handle and see in a different way.

This is how we grow spiritually and become a better human being — is it not?

Have you ever felt you were fulfilling a role in life?

Another aspect of the human condition is the creation of individuality and various roles; mother, father, daughter, son, brother, sister, cousin, uncle, boss, co-worker, friend, student, lawyer, doctor, vet, etc.

What purpose do these roles serve? Well, they serve the human condition in its quest for individuality and status which ultimately feeds the what? You guessed it … EGO!

There is a saying that EGO stands for Edging God Out and that is a true and accurate statement because the further you go into EGO the farther away you become from your God-Centered reality.

God Centered Reality?

“God is you and you are God and that there is no place that God is not — therefore, there is no place that you are not!”

So, in the human conditions quest for individuality, i.e. to be different and the EGO’s quest to be better than it would stand to reason you would get further, and further, away from this God Centered Reality, right?

When you look at another human being odds are you don’t see an aspect of yourself looking back at you. Instead, you see an entirely different (separate) human being and then your progress into stage 2 of the human condition — sizing them up.

Ever notice, that you have preconceived notions about people before they even speak? Where do they come from? That right … The Human Condition! Often they are beliefs that are planted by others or a perception that you have created based on an experience — so, what this really means is the EGO now can pass “judgement” on this person.

Things like:

“Look at the size of that person.”

“He she looks snobby.”

“He/she smells.”

“What a bitch.”

“OMG … She is dressing so slutty.”

“This person has to be stupid.”

“They must not have a lot of money.”

“Thank God, we don’t live like that.”

“Look how greasy his/her hair is — do they even shower?”

And on and on the list goes.

These thoughts seem to just “pop” into your head without even consciously thinking about them — yet, it is all due to the training at the College of Human Conditioning and EGO — where inflation is all the rage!

So, as you can tell, these statements feed one  purpose which is to to degrade another in an effort to make you feel better about your situation and yourself. However, thinking these thoughts about another in essence is the same as thinking them about yourself — there is no place you are not, remember? The Law of One …

Now, what is really happening? You are seeing an aspect of yourself that you choose not to believe exists within yourself and are projecting it onto this person — which is really a “hologram” of sorts since their is only one being and you can call it; God, Consciousness, The Divine Mind, Jesus, Buddha, Krishna, etc.

So, next time, you find yourself passing judgment ask yourself, “What aspect of myself am I facing, right now?” AND “What can it teach me?”

Remember, as long as EGO and Human Conditioning reign in the third dimension of reality — the physical plane — inequality will as well. You can make shift within yourself and I promise when you do — Your life will be much more enjoyable and without anger, frustration, prejudice, stress, etc.

Change your thinking — change your life!